Would you rather be a woman's considered purchase or her impulse buy?

HINT: Would you rather wait a month to get laid or would you rather be having sex right now?


Marketers have long understood that people buy different types of products in different ways. Some purchases require some thought, maybe some research. Others are “impulse buys.” Consider a woman at a grocery store. In the cereal aisle she picks up a brightly colored box. She reads the contents, checks the calories, maybe the amount of sugar and the price. She puts that box back on the shelf and picks up a different brand, repeating the process. Finally she makes her choice, puts it in the cart and moves on to the next aisle. The next time she’s in this aisle, she may simply buy the same brand again, or you may see her examining multiple brands before making her choice. This is a considered purchase for her.

But watch that woman when she gets to the checkout line. She grabs a pack of gum and throws it on the conveyor belt. No real examination of contents, price or anything else. She grabs it and the decision is made. This is an impulse buy.

It’s the same way with online dating/sex sites. The traditional sites are set up to make you a “considered purchase” for her. You answer questions. You fill out compatibility surveys. You write essay questions about who you are and what you want. You give them more information than even the IRS would ask you. By the time she writes her first word to you, she knows: your height, your body type, your eye color, your hair color, your age, your birth date, whether you’ve ever been married, if you have any kids, whether they’re living with you, what part of town you live in, your hobbies, your pets, the industry you work within, what you like to do on a date and a variety of other things you may choose to share about yourself. On some sites she even knows all of your sexual proclivities and/or your yearly salary. She approaches that site with a long-term plan: she joins, she carefully fills out everything, and then starts reading the notes she gets from the thousands (yes, thousands) of men trying to get her attention, with the intention of studying each one, and responding to the ones that seem like the best prospects. She then starts going out on dates with the expectation of finding the perfect long-term partner.

The very fact that a dating/sex site presents so much information about you to a potential date creates the assumption that all of this information is important and needs to be taken into account. I mean, honestly, do you really care about her eye color or what she does for a living? No. But she is paying careful attention to every bit of information she sees on you, and making judgments with each new factoid.

So you have already been examined, probed and investigated before she even bothers to communicate with you. And if you’re almost her perfect match, except you’re an inch shorter than she’d like, or she’d really like to find someone with a different eye color, she moves on without so much as a hint that she might have been interested. Most women know they can find someone a little more perfect if they just keep looking. She owes it to herself to be picky!

But CL is the ONLY effective place online where you can position yourself as her “impulse purchase.” She finds herself at home and bored, more than a little horny, so she gets on CL to see who she can meet and have fun with tonight. Yes, there is a pretty good chance she’d rather be in a completely satisfying long-term relationship right now, but it takes a great deal of time and effort to get to that point, and she wants to have some fun tonight. It’s time for her to grab an impulse purchase and put it on the checkout counter!

So now she has no need to see a full explanation of who you are and what you are all about. You don’t have to commit yourself to a single deep exposition into your heart and soul that every woman will read, contemplate and judge. Now, when you’re on CL, you are just the words crafted in a response to her post, specifically for that woman to see. Or you are the words in your own ad, created to appeal directly to one kind of woman who will read what you have written and react with an email telling you she is interested, and interested NOW. With each communication, you will position yourself as exactly the man she is looking for tonight. She wants to go grab a drink at that new bar that opened up and then “see what happens from there”? What a coincidence! You were already planning on going there tonight! She needs someone who can please her orally over and over all night long? Perfect! That’s your specialty! She wants someone she can tie down and use however she likes? Wonderful! You can even bring the rope!

Your long-term goals, your career, your history, everything she would focus on if you were a considered purchase, it’s all irrelevant. Because now you’re an impulse buy. Just be fun, honest and safe, and you will get laid.


(This is an excerpt from the new hit book, Secrets of the Craigslist Conqueror: An Expert's Guide to Getting Laid on Craigslist. Would you like to read more? Go here.)

Pop quiz: what is the most efficient site on the internet for hookups?

Pencils down! If you said Craigslist, then A+ for you.  For years, it has been the biggest and most active pickup sites on the internet. To this day, the Craigslist casual encounters page rules as the top-rated destination for hooking up online with women for sex.  More than 55 million people go to Craigslist every month—and a large percentage of them are women going there in search of immediate sex. 

Why?  Because Craigslist is free. It doesn’t charge to post ads or to reply to other people’s ads.  It is completely anonymous and it doesn’t require a static profile.  These are all major attractions for the women of Craigslist.

Meanwhile, most other dating and sex sites charge guys monthly fees to review women’s profiles and pictures.  But, how many of those women are actually available?  Are they still active on the site?  Will they be online tonight? Will they be in the mood to meet tonight? Do they even live in the same state?  What kind of returns are these sites delivering on the $40/month investment?  Well, there are those compatibility search engines … for those of us who require a computer to tell us who we’re actually attracted to.

The Craigslist casual encounters section happens in real time.  The women on the site are local now, horny now and are usually interested in finding a man NOW.

That’s what makes Craigslist the biggest and best online pick up destination in the world.

If haven’t used Craigslist yet to change your dating life, you should. And if you’ve been there and didn’t seem to find much more than spam and other guys looking for women, then you need this.

Ten reasons every man looking for women needs to be on Craigslist

1. More women = more opportunities … even when their presence isn’t obvious.

There’s a hidden ocean of women out there on Craigslist every day. They’re not always easy to spot. There are a lot of ads from other guys, tons of spam, prostitutes and other time wasters. But the real women are there … you just need to know how to identify them and get their attention. That requires a strategy. Fortunately, I've written all the details.

2. Craigslist is the #1 online destination in the world for dating and hookups.

Nobody makes money from Craigslist being the largest site in the world for picking up women. Sites that cost you $40 a month won’t tell you that, and Craigslist doesn’t need to advertise its free services. But it is definitely the top site in the world for finding women. Even when they’re not posting ads themselves, thousands of women in every city are reading the posts placed by men. And there’s great power in numbers.

3. No profiles = great opportunity

Craigslist changes the whole dating template by doing away with profiles. The use of profiles brings with them the assumption that a woman should scrutinize every detail you provide before answering your message. Everything on Craigslist is done in the moment, immediately. There is no setting a profile and coming back a week later to check your messages. If a woman wants sex now (or very soon, at least) she goes to Craigslist. If she doesn’t, she has no reason to waste her time there. So the women you do correspond with are ready for sex.

4. It’s ALL local.

While every dating site offers search functions to find local singles, you usually end up talking to someone who seems great … she just lives a couple of states away. But on your local Craigslist page, every woman you will find is local to you. And since she’s local, that means you can meet her very, very quickly … if you play your cards right.

5. You eliminate the transition from polite conversation to sex.

Every dating/pickup relationship has that moment where you need to transition from polite conversation into a more sexual realm, and if you miss it you end up in the dreaded friendship zone. Unless you’re on Craigslist -- where, if you do it right, you start off talking about sex from word one. It’s a part of the strategy I mentioned in reason #1.

6. It’s FREE!

And free is always good. Sometimes free is even great.

7. You will live out your greatest sexual fantasies.

Every post can be placed anonymously. That means that with every post you can explore different aspects of your sexuality. Have a fantasy that is too dirty to discuss in polite company? Is it too dirty to associate with all of your friends, family and coworkers have come to know? Write it up in an ad on Craigslist … it shouldn’t take long to find a woman outside of your circle of friends to help you fulfill it.

8. Kiss approach anxiety goodbye.

Hate dealing with that rising internal apprehension just before you try to meet women at a club, bar or party? Meeting through Craigslist does away with that completely. If you do it right, you can have her ready for sex and on her way to your place before you even meet face-to-face. Again, strategy.

9. You can do it from your couch while wearing boxers.

You can meet beautiful, sexy women from the comfort of your very own living room, as you watch a ball game on TV. What other venue offers you a chance to get laid in such a comfortable setting?

10. You will beat out the competition ... if you do it right ...

A great deal of your competition on Craigslist isn’t all that … sophisticated. Half of the guys on there send women a picture of their dick saying nothing more than, “Wanna fuck?” With the right strategy, you can do a LOT better than that.

BONUS REASON: Being attractive is a plus. But it certainly isn't necessary.

I’m fat. I’m bald. I’m short. I’m not rich. And I’m not all that sexually gifted. And yet I have had sex with more than 120 beautiful, sexy woman using Craigslist. You don’t have to be all that attractive, a snappy dresser or super smooth meeting new women. You just need the right strategy.

There’s a lot more to know. I’d be happy to tell you more. You can read all about my adventures on Craigslist right here.